Friday, April 29, 2011
Working through it
The last two days, Calabar and I have done some great ground work, re-establishing the rules, revisiting the roles we've slipped into and--for my part--trying to change where we've ended up.
Bar has been responsive and cooperative, and I have been tougher with him when he's not. Amazing what that combination can do.
We have a ways to go, yet, but the subtle changes we've made are starting to make a difference. It's all simple stuff really: not allowing him too close unless I ask, correcting him if he doesn't stop when I do, pushing him when he argues about what I've asked him to do--actually, just pushing him in general past his comfort zone--it's all good.
The face in the photo is only a reaction to me picking at the scabs under his chin--probable tick bites, ew--not to the work. He loves the work. He likes the rules. He responds to me being calm and clear and directing him. I am remembering how to be the leader Bar needs. After all, 1,200 pounds can't be allowed to run the show. Not for my sake, and not for his, either.